Merry Christmas and Goodbye

I’ve been in Texas for a little over a month. I had a few days with my dad while he was able to talk. Then he got weaker. He had already stopped eating.

When I got here he was in the hospital. I believe he knew he was dying. He wanted to go home. He absolutely refused to go to a rehab/ nursing facility. We brought him home where we sat with him as he made the transition. He passed away last week on December 3, 2024. He had Alzheimer’s.

Hundreds of pictures have surfaced as all of his grandchildren began posting them on Facebook and other social media. The older ones were especially close to him.

It was quite difficult for my siblings and I, even harder than when my mom passed in 2013. I think it was because our mom’s death was quick and a surprise. With dad, we went through it with him.

We listened as he had conversations with people we did not see or hear. In later stages, we watched as it appeared that he was being fed like a baby. It was astonishing.

Then on the third of this month,while the caregivers were bathing him, he slipped away. He was gone.

My dad was a very strong hard worker. He worked most of his life. I believe he would have still been trying to work if he had not lost his sight. Just days before his sudden decline, he would still gather the trash/rubbish for trash day. He did his own laundry, washed dishes, cooked for himself, and showered on his own. Then, before his birthday on October 25, he lost all strength and desire to keep going. He was 86.

I missed my mom to the point that I had to be medicated for a short time. Her death was so sudden. This time, I had the chance to spend time with my remaining parent and say a proper goodbye. I was able to express my thanks and appreciation for all my dad had done for us over the years. I was able to tell him how much I loved him and what he meant to me.

My dad was the last living and youngest of his siblings. I still have my favorite aunt, who is the last living and youngest of my mom’s siblings. She is 76 years old. I have enjoyed her company and comfort in the last month or so. She is healthy and strong and I hope I have several more years with her.

Even though this happened during the Christmas season, we have joy. Dad had missed my mom tremendously. Now he has been gathered to his people. We are happy for him.

May all who read this have a very Merry Christmas! Enjoy your family time😊.